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6 Jan

….Because We Just Can’t Read Others’ Hearts and Minds

Posted by fazdlee isa in family, friends.

*Don’t judge a book by its cover…*

That simple proverb is actually one of the most powerful and useful sayings.

Because we are all just normal human being with limited capabilities, we really CAN’T judge others solely based on our own perspective.

I HATE when people blindly judge me….so that’s why i don’t do that to others. I just don’t. Because of that too, i tend to trust others very easily…but as long as it won’t harm me, it’s fine right??

Just because we have been raised by certain kind of values, we still have NO RIGHT to expect others to have the same values…we just can’t.

Have you heard of “benefit of doubt”?

It is an idiom which means “to believe something good about someone, rather than something bad, when you have the possibility of doing either”.

I always…always….always (can’t emphasize on that enough) believe that there is a logical explanation behind every deed. People do things due to some reasons…

I also believe there is no real evil among people…just alot of those who have made bad decisions…

As i grow older, i realized that i became more and more capable of being very very understanding and always giving “benefit of doubt” to others…

However, it didn’t come very easy to me…i learnt it in a hard way…

I have to admit, since i am no perfect, i have hurt feelings of my love ones alot of times….espcially my dad. There is no way i could take my deeds back, but i know that i could learn to improve myself..which i have!!!

I know that we can’t expect people to do things the way we want it to happen..because others aren’t like us…they have their own reasons and judgements. Plus, sometimes, our way probably not be the best way to do the thing…right?

I have made alot of mistakes in my life, you guys have no idea…and i still make somemore now…and probably always will….

However, there are 3 magic words that we all can say when we have made mistakes, “I AM SORRY“.

Nothing…i mean NOTHING…is more humble that that! If you say it with your whole heart, people will definitely accept it…i hope…

So my friends, when people didn’t do things the way you wanted it to happen, please please don’t get mad. Take the lesson from me. Just be more patient and TRY to be more understanding…they surely have their own reasons…everything will turn out just fine…maybe BETTER…trust me…even though it is not going to be the way you want it…

People grow up in different situations, so why we should expect others to behave and do things exactly like we would???

Think about it….deeply.

I’m sorry….i am so sorry :-) I promise this will never happen again…at least i will try…

Fazdlee. Out.

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2 Responses to this post.

  1. Posted by i-dunno-too on January 6, 2009 at 11:27 am

    huahua…interesting piece u haf here :) ). i was searching something ’bout fasting on 9 n 10 muharram n bumped into ur blog. i dont get the idea why ur still single? u haf d look, good background, well-edu, alim too (might be…). assuming that u might be too-too choosy (well, i dont really like to assume!). just appreciate those around u. open ur eyes, n maybe ’she’s’ already around u…

    p/s: ignore this crap comment. its just my habit to comment on ppl’s blog. my apologies… heheh. selamat berpuasa.

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  2. Posted by lolleepop on January 6, 2009 at 12:44 pm

    Hey,Salam perkenalan

    No need to apologize here. I like when people read my blog.

    Thanks for your comment and compliment. Huhuhu

    Alim? Still working on that ;-)

    Pls do come to my blog everyday. I write excessively on daily basis.

    Bye

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